Though I understand where Haley was coming from, I do think she was judgmental whenever it came to LP. I get that she's Lucas' best friend and only wanted the best for him, but she still meddled into something that wasn't really her business, which was his best friend's love life, even if she had the best interest at heart. And she's my favorite character. Other than that, I think those were the only things she did that made her come across as being judgmental.
And Haley did lie to him at first about tutoring Nathan. Aside from that, I did find Haley to be the most judgmental of the core 5 so it didn't bother me if she was being judged.
But Haley lied to Lucas for his own good, so that Nathan and his friends would leave him alone. Had she told Lucas and he wouldn't let her do it. I don't think that can be compared to Lucas being annoyed that she had fallen for Nathan. And I must say that I don't really think Lucas was judgmental then. I haven't watched S1 in a while so I may be forgetting something, but didn't he look annoyed at first and then told her he understood and even tried to cheer her up when she was crying at the cafe, because of Nathan? If that was the scene you guys were talking about, I don't think he was being judgmental there. Now if you're talking about later on in season 1 when he's plain mean to Haley and gets all upset that she's become a cheerleader and is no longer "herself", that was totally judgmental and hypocrite, because Lucas himself was now part of the popular crowd, probably even more than Haley at that point.
As for the bolded part, I don't agree with that and that's totally fine, but that still doesn't excuse or makes what other characters did to her right.
I can't think of a single act of Haley that could be considered even equally judgmental of Peyton's treatment of Haley in early s3, her confrontation with Brooke in late s3 and her animosity towards Lindsey who did nothing to her in s5.
Yeah, I agree with that. I think all characters were judgmental at a certain point, but, to me, Peyton takes the cake as far as that goes.