I do find it disrespectful to Haley for Nathan to be looking at porn because of how serious and insecure Haley was about sex. I don't care if Nathan was "only" 17 - you can very much control your actions and urges at that age so that whole notion is completely lost on me. There is no justified excuse - it's like someone cheating and saying they simply couldn't control their raging hormones. What?! Now, I don't hate Nathan or anything because of this, unless he was looking at Peyton as well (which I believed him when he said he wasn't). He and Haley shared a different view on sex, and at that point in their relationship, I don't think he quite grasped how special sex can be. Before, it was always meaningless - just sex so I don't think he understood why Haley took it so seriously. He even said it once in 118, "it's just sex", so I don't think he was "wrong" in terms of how he, personally, has always felt about sex. But it was still disrespectful towards her. Their relationship was real and not just two people who sleep together with no true feelings like the ones he had in the past. So while I get that sex was just sex to him at that time, he knew it wasn't for Haley. He knew how insecure and how serious she took it and his age doesn't justify him disrespecting her like that. I'm not at all discounting that he's abstained from sex for Haley but if you love and care for someone, that's what you do. For me, it did show how much he cared about/loved
her so I'm proud of him for that.
Look, I have no issues with porn. If people want to watch it, people can watch it - I don't care. But it's also not wrong for people to be against it. And I don't think it's fair to call someone a prude if they are - that's just rude and judgmental. Myself - I'd rather not watch it and I don't want my boyfriend watching it either but I'm no prude. I find it insulting to be slapped with that label. IMO, it's disrespectful to watch/do something your significant other is against (within reason of course). If you don't care that your significant other watches it or you watch it together or whatever - good for you. I could careless if that's the case. But don't criticize someone else for feeling differently. I'm someone who takes sex seriously, even without being a virgin (sorry - personal info). I'm not someone who believes in going out and having sex with random people or having sex with every person you date. If you do do that then that's your business - do whatever you want; it's not my place to judge. It's just my own personal feelings about the situation. I think it's wrong - it's as simple as that. Other people may disagree and that's fine, but don't you dare call me a prude or whatever just because we may have different beliefs/opinions/views in life. I think it's sad that someone who is a virgin receives more ridicule than someone who isn't these days.