I don't think you're understanding why the kiss was such a big deal to Brooke. It goes back to season 1 and why she was dumped by Lucas the first time around. It wasn't because of anything she did or didn't do. She got dumped because Lucas wanted Peyton. When Lucas begged for another chance she gave it to him and I don't think she ever got over the hurt of what happened the first time.
That would make sense to me if she just took him back after the cheating, but it was not so. He worked to earn her trust back for months. First just to be friends, and then romantically. He was there for her whenever she needed him, from fixing her windshield, helping her with her election speech to arranging for her to stay in Tree Hill and giving her his room. But even after all that, and what happened at the beginning of season 3, it was like none of that mattered. The only thing that mattered to her was that she got cheated in the past. She never should have started dating him again if she could not get over it and forgive. Like she was forgiven for lying about being pregnant, sleeping with Chris, sleeping with Nathan, stealing the test and getting Haley fired…
It's why it was brought up repeatedly in season 3 when both Lucas and Peyton tried to reassure her that they weren't getting back together and Lucas wasn't in love with Peyton. But in the end, their talk was cheap, because they did end up back together.
Lucas wasn’t in love with Peyton while he was with Brooke. He was a friend to her. Regardless of how people interpret Lucas’ feelings in season 3, we as viewers did not see any indication that he was interested in Peyton romantically. It just wasn’t there. You can say that Peyton had romantic feelings for Lucas, because it was hinted several times but Lucas was completely in love with Brooke. If Brooke’s assumptions were right at that time we would have seen Lucas and Peyton together the very next episode like in season 1.
Peyton told her flat out multiple times she didn't have feelings for Lucas in season 3 and then drops a bombshell on Brooke in the finale, and then Lucas made it worse by telling Brooke that he shared a kiss with Peyton. She was already vulnerable and guarded because of what happened the first time and it's ludicrous to think that Brooke was just going to be, "Oh you kissed your ex, my best friend, AGAIN? No problem, dude." That's preposterous. I don't know anyone who would have just been okay with that. Haley wasn't when Nanny Carrie kissed Nate and got into the shower with him in season 5, but somehow Brooke is stupid and wrong because she broke up with Lucas, because she understood that Lucas had pulled away from her and she didn't want to fight it anymore?
Haley wasn’t okay with it but in the end she worked on her relationship, which is something Brooke never did. Brooke’s reaction was understandable in 322 when she was upset, her reaction in season 4 was not. She did not even try. That was the time for her to start fighting for their relationship, and Lucas even told her in 403 that she never did that.
By not telling her about the kiss Lucas pulled away? Did she pull away from him when she did not tell him about kissing Pete, about her fear of being alone, that she misses her parents and they never call her, or about what Peyton confessed to her? Honesty is a two way street. I can’t remember one single scene, aside from 317, when Brooke shared something personal with Lucas in season 3.
Just because Lucas fought for her in season 3 and forgave her for Chris, does not make him a paragon of virtue. His past mistakes colored their relationship, because he hurt Brooke very deeply the first time around. In this case the phrase, "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me" applies. Brooke was not an idiot and she knew that Lucas was slipping away and she didn't want to fight the inevitable anymore. Whether or not Lucas was aware of his feelings for Peyton does not diminish them. He clearly still loved Peyton and Brooke knew it, which is why she walked away.
Again, I understand that you ship LP and believe that Lucas always loved Peyton romantically but I go by what I actually see on the screen. And I did not see that Lucas loved Peyton in season 3. The whole concept of “buried feelings” is ridiculous to me.
And if Lucas’ past mistakes colored their relationship, then why didn’t Brooke’s past mistakes color their relationship? Why does she get a free pass? She resented Lucas for bringing up the Chris incident while they were fighting about something that had very much to do with season 1 cheating. Pretty ironic, huh? So Lucas is supposed to grovel for forgiveness for the rest of time and still not be fully forgiven while Brooke is forgiven in few days and it’s not to be mentioned again. That’s something that always bothered me about Brooke. She is easily forgiven for any mistake she makes but when she is wronged she holds grudges.
As for the reaction Lucas had after the shooting, all people deal with grief and sorrow differently. His reaction is not "normal", as there is no normal when it comes to grief. Many people rely heavily on the person they are with/dating/married to for support and for someone to help them through it. Lucas is not like that, granted, but Brooke wanted him to need her or at least include her, because she wanted to be there for him and because she loved Keith too. Lucas did talk to Peyton by the way after the shooting.
Yes he did. He told her how completely in love with Brooke he was. And he did include Brooke in his recovery process, it just didn’t happen right that instant. But by the end of the day he came to her. If Brooke was holding Lucas’ behavior after that tragedy against him then it paints her in a very bad light as far as I am concerned. At least that one time it wasn’t all about her and her needs. She was supposed to be the understanding girlfriend and let Lucas deal with it in his own way offering help when he is ready and asks for it.
Also, being let into someone's world is NOT the same as being letting into their heart. Lucas never gave her full access, whereas, he did to Peyton.
How? I’m simply curious as to what did he do with Peyten that he didn’t do with Brooke. To me, it was the same. Lucas is that type of person, he doesn’t share everything with his girlfriend. He did not tell Peyton in season 4 about Dan and the school shooting for example.
As for who came after him, her relationship with Chase was more give and take, and I think she learned for her past mistakes with Lucas.
Her relationship with Chase looked like a joke to me compared to the other relationships on the show like BL, LP, NH, JP… It came out of the blue and vanished without the trace in a matter of few episodes.
As for who she ultimately ended up with, Julian fought for her more than Lucas ever did and in the end, she trusted her heartagain and allowed herself to love and ended up with the love of her life.
I disagree. Julian actually broke up with her when she became irrational. He did not comply with her demand to stop working with Alex. The difference is that Brooke ultimately tried and saved her relationship with Julian. It was in Brooke's hands in both cases. Her insecurities were completely hers to work through, nobody could have done it for her. And that’s okay if she didn’t want to work on her relationship with Lucas and did want to work on her relationship with Julian. But it was not Lucas’ fault like so many people say. He was not the reason Brucas ended the second time around. Brooke’ insecurities were. It wasn’t a healthy relationship IMO. Everything seemed to be on Brooke’s terms and she was always dictating. They weren’t equals in the relationship.
I am a huge Lucas/Peyton fan and Peyton is my favorite character, but I think it's ridiculous to make Brooke out to the bad person in this situation. She was hurt by Lucas and Peyton repeatedly in high school and she developed a defense mechanism because of it, which lasted until she met Julian and fell in love with him. I don't blame Brooke. I don't believe she did nothing wrong in season 3, and felt the breakup was due to both of them not communicating their needs and wants, but Lucas is not exempt here, nor does he get a free pass either. He has never been perfect, and certainly not in season 3.
Well, I see it differently. While I agree she was hurt by Peyton repeatedly, I think Lucas hurt her only in season 1. But I feel that he more than made up for it by the time Brucas were done. Others may see it differently but to me her expectations of him were impossible to meet. I’m not saying Lucas was perfect, he did make some mistakes but nothing that would make him to be the bad guy this time around.
Brooke ruined her own relationship. Instead of trusting her boyfriend she decided to end it. That is, of course, her right if she thought that’s the best thing for her but in that case I do hold her responsible for it. Either you trust your significant other and start a relationship with him/her or you don’t and don’t become involved. In any case, you can’t do both.